The addiction called Love

I went through a blog and felt like spreading the word and hence couldn't resist myself from copying and re-posting the same here. Kudos to the blogger. The same has been posted by me along with some of the comments i liked. Here goes the blog post...  

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What is the worst addiction? Alcohol? Smoke? Drugs? They are fatal, aren’t they? They can make you physically weak, mentally unstable, and can take away your life. Dangerous.

What about being addicted to love? How good and how bad is it?

For those who are in love this post must not be weird. Rest of you can go fall in love and then come back to read if you find it weird.

Till date I knew about the good parts, but a girl I knew ended her life last week after two heartbreaks and I saw the darker side.

I also have a best friend who cannot stay out of love. Loneliness bites her. After a series of failed relationships and one failed attempt at suicide she is about to get married and is badly perplexed. She has been in almost three relationships and none worked out. She is worried her marriage might fall apart in similar fashion; worst part is that it’s an arranged one and she doesn’t even know this guy properly. I know the story of her life but I never understood the reason behind her hasty decisions regarding relationships. So I asked why she did that to herself. Why not wait for someone who walks in and never leaves again. Why after all is she determined to stay troubled over one or other person consecutively? Why bear multiple heartbreaks? Her reply was an obvious one but it made me ponder over what this addiction can do to you.

You know how it is when you fall head over heels in love. Your phone bills shoot up because you spend ample time talking and texting. You prefer staying in contact 24 x 7. You let each other know about every minute of your day. Spend quality time with each other. Get habituated of sharing your life with that person. Intimacy and love and care redefine themselves.

What if it ends all of a sudden? Are you strong enough to bear the wide gap now left in the place your special one had been? You get so habituated to each other that the emptiness engulfs you once it’s over. Few people live with it and move on and live once again. Most succumb to their need to be with someone to fill up that empty space again and end up getting into wrong relationships. “We fall in love once” becomes passé. The need to always feel loved and cared and wanted takes over. Too much of love indeed takes away your will power to tackle loneliness, doesn’t it?

Isn’t addiction to love the worst one then? Isn’t it the most fatal one? It can make a physically fit person voluntarily ruin and end his/her life. Heartbreak kills you every day. Loneliness eats you up internally and you become a hollow shell. Sadly, there are no rehabs to cure the addiction to love.

I learnt one thing. Fall in love alright, but try not to let it control your life. Learn to live again. If one person left your life, it might mean there is someone better for you. Learn to wait and let life work of its own accord. Let things shape up on their own. Hasty decisions can ruin whatever chances you still have. It can make your life hell. It can ruin your family, pain the people who love you and care for you.

Love as much as you can…but understand it’s not the end of life. Addiction of any sort is dangerous. Love is a beautiful feeling. Don’t make it a drug.

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Comments:-  

1) Once you get emotionally attached with someone, it's hard to forget him/her.. Some people get emotionally attached to the extreme...but yes..as you said, it's not good..Life is much much more than Love & Relationship. :)

2) Truly! People tend to be in so-called "love", just to avoid the feeling of loneliness.

3) I can never understand ppl who are so addicted to relationships....and I dont call it love.

Because trust me true love happens very rare...
After my life experiences I wdnt say it happens just once and blah blah but yes it is rare...

What your friend goes through is a case of rebounds...which is kind of dependency for u fear loneliness and need someone....and trust me rebounds r disaster....unless ur over the one u loved...and moved ahead....no relationship will ever success....the baggage will just grow and grow....One needs to reflect on her life post breakup and find a path before getting involved again.....breakups are hard....they takes yrs to heal...u move on but u never forget....and thats the hard fact.....so instead of focusing life around men....we need to find ways to be busy and friends r best ways for that....

Ur friend never gives chance to find herself and hence made herself vulnerable and relationships addicted and if that goes...she can never adjust and will find her expectations ruined...she needs to be open to love and adjust here and there if she wants the marriage to succeed and never be pessimistic Life is much more than love...that is one reason I always believed in spaces even in marriages...so girl outs shouldn't stop post marriage too :)

4) Love makes one live longer.True love makes you very strong,physically and mentally.Control love,let not love control you.I love as many as I like.If they love me fine,if they don't love me fine.But I continue loving as one day that person will realize and come back to share full,pure love.

Courtesy-  My Uncensored Heart

When careness SMOTHERS

Thoughts sometimes inundate our minds, and so is the feeling for our near and dear ones. But why?

I've been looking for its answer since last couple of days. What i finally came across is not a fresh and complex theory of  Einstein or Stephen Hawking, hard or difficult to fathom and comprehend. Thanks to the streetwalker whose moves made me realize, decipher and eventually helped in getting the answer. The simple and clear hypothesis is that, Its the ultimate difficulty one faces, or feels SMOTHERED rather, when we make our moves just out of selfless love, respect, and CARE. And its a celestial fact that when we feel smothered, we drift towards a place, a corner or a lifestyle rather, that gives us the full opportunity to flap our wings, breathe freely and most importantly to get rid of the pains, restrictions and the confinements imposed on us.

BUT why do people feel smothered when our moves are just for the welfare for them and of-course driven by the conscience of care for them? 

This is something which is open for interpretation by one and all. Reasons might be different for different people. But at the end of the day its painful anyway.

There are various probable cases. Even the same is true for our family members. We are so close to each other that we expect they'll understand our moves, our unsaid concern for them, for their good, for their better and best in fact. They do understand it but finally there are private places, privy concerns which must not be invaded and compromised under any situation. 

Family members understand it and everything settles with time... What about those who are not a part of our family but mean more than that?

Is it always a mistake cum blunder from the either of them? Or just a communication gap? Probably we get so infuriated from the most recent move of our friends that, all the past deeds, promises, and most importantly "The Friendship" becomes meaningless for us. Why we don't try to understand what actually the intentions were of the latter? Why we don't pay any heed to our conscience's voice? Why do we, every-time, get moved by the strong feeling of abhorrence? Why we don't give it all a second thought? Why???

It all may sound futile and a mere attempt to damage our vocal chords but try to look at it from the perspective of the person who finds no utterance, and no space to show whether it was (s)he who is being perceived as the culprit or a mere outcome of clubbing of all prejudices, detests and hostility that refuge in our brain just because we couldn't accept that we'll feel SMOTHERED due to their concern and care for us.